Secret Sauce to Form Meaningful Bonds for Introverts

Dearest humble readers, 

As an introvert, I constantly felt awkward at talking to people. Forming new bonds and connections felt nerve-wracking. And my instant thought was to run away from people. I remember back in school, I hurried to my classes, only to get to my safe space at the cornermost bench. It was the only spot where I felt secure (the other one was the library). 

If you’re reading this post then I'm sure you can relate to this situation.  

And making friends seems like a daunting task to you too. 

But, one thing that I’m learning in my late twenties is that forming new bonds is a necessity. And we humans are kind of social animals and it is in our genes to be with people. 

If you just try to connect then you never know, you may land up with the most amazing person. 

It is true that some connections last for an eternity, while others whither away with time. “People come and go in one’s life,” an advice given to me by one of my closest friends from college.

You don’t have control over who stays and who goes, but the quality of life spent with that person stays with you forever. 

Secret Sauce to Form Meaningful Bonds for Introverts

A 200-something book - Never Eat Alone uncovers several nuances on how to form meaningful connections with people. You can use these techniques for networking in the business world, forming new friends, or even finding a partner. 

I would recommend this book to you because the tactics mentioned in this book works. This book is absent from the mundane fluff and includes aspects that will leave a lasting impact on you.

Why Should Introverts Read - Never Eat Alone?

I can think about a myriad of reasons why introverts should read Never Eat Alone, but the top-notch reasons are:

1. It is a blueprint for networking and forming genuine connections.

2. It will tell you how to combine goals and passions + achieve them.

3. This book encompasses numerous real-life examples on how people achieved their goals with meaningful connections.

4. This book will teach you how to be an interesting person, but not a schmooze.

5. Never Eat Alone will take you out of your social awkwardness and allow you to make smooth small talks. 

Never Eat Alone - Key Takeaways

If you don’t like to read then I’ve put together key points that will help you to form bonds and get out of the social anxiety stage.

1. Be generous: It is about them and not you. Offer services first rather than being serviced.  Ask “How can I uplift the other person?”

2. Have the audacity to ‘ask for help.’

3. Don’t keep a score: “He did this so I have to compensate for it immediately.” This creates a limiting relationship belief and blocks you from forming deeper connections.

4. Bring value to the table: How you can arouse interest about yourself in others, so they would want to meet you. For example, an off-beat passion such as off-road cycling.

5. To build an everlasting bond, help people across 3 aspects: health, wealth, and uplifting their kids.

6. Balance is BS: Do it your way. Finding and maintaining connections is a lifestyle, not a burden.

7. Be honest with yourself.

8. Never give in to Hubris.

9. Share your passions with others. Join clubs and groups with similar passions to build connections. Take an interest in others' passions and work.

10. If nothing works then these five words will - “That’s wonderful, tell me more.”

These are the 10 key takeaways that will allow you as an introvert to form meaningful connections. 

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Yours truly,

Chaitali